• CHOOSE KIND: Official T-shirt from the film WONDER

    Join the over 40,000 others who choose kind. Every shirt sold benefits PACER’s National Bullying Prevention Center.

    Order your T-shirt today
  • This I Believe

    Five high school students read an adaptation of an essay written by a 14-year-old.

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  • What Should You Do? Ways to Be There

    PACERTalks About Bullying, Episode 19

    Insights and advice from students as they think through how to respond to real life bullying situations.

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  • Teen Talk on Cyberbullying

    Watch this short video designed to provide authentic insight and perspective from peers on issues related to cyberbullying.

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  • Together Against Bullying

    Animated video created from student drawings and writing, brought to life with the voices of youth.

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  • You Are Braver, Stronger and Smarter Than You Think

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  • Turn a Life Around

    Bullying knocks down thousands of kids every day, but when one person stands, another will stand with them. You can be that person, you can turn a life around.

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  • Lizzie Sider

    Lizzie is a country music singer/songwriter, who experienced verbal teasing and ridiculing from other children in elementary school. Her song, “Butterfly” tells her story and how she overcame her situation.

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  • New Day

    When a high school student experiences bullying at her new school, she finds hope from her peers. Special thanks to kouraproductions for creating and producing this powerful video!

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Features / New Stuff

Unity Awards

Do you know an individual or group who took action to make our communities, schools and the web kinder, more accepting and inclusive? If yes, nominate them for a Unity Award! Our student panel will judge all nominations. Then, on May 30th, we will recognize those who have made outstanding contributions to help create a world without bullying.

Submit a nomination


Choose Kind

WONDER, R.J. Palacio’s New York Times bestseller, is the incredibly inspiring story of Auggie Pullman, a boy with facial differences who enters fifth grade at a mainstream school for the first time. This heartwarming story was made into a movie and is in theaters now! The inspiring take-away message from reading the book or seeing the movie is to always CHOOSE KIND. You can show that kindness matters by purchasing the film’s official CHOOSE KIND T-shirt. Every shirt sold benefits PACER’s National Bullying Prevention Center.

Order your T-shirt today


Share your #CleanTheMean Story

Clarisonic wants everyone to feel confident about the skin they’re in. Uncovering personal confidence and building it within others can help everyone prevent bullying and spread positivity. For every #CleanTheMean Facebook or Instagram post shared this year, Clarisonic will donate $1 to PACER’s National Bullying Prevention Center, up to $100,000.

Learn more how sharing a post benefits the cause


Take The Pledge

Send a message of hope and support! Take the pledge and make a commitment to show that we are together against bullying, and united for kindness, acceptance, and inclusion.

Take the pledge



Teens Against Bullying bookmarks, new design now available!

The updated design of the Teens Against Bullying bookmark encourages middle and high school students with the message, “The End of Bullying Begins with You.” The other side features a pledge for kindness, acceptance, and inclusion.

Place your bookmark order


Make a statement! Order your official T-shirt! Show that you are contributing to a kinder, more inclusive and accepting world.

This one-of-a-kind shirt is only available during September and October. Order soon so that you can wear orange (the signature color of bullying prevention) during National Bullying Prevention Month, on Unity Day, and all year long. Proceeds will benefit PACER’s National Bullying Prevention Center so that we can continue to prevent bullying and promote kindness, inclusion, and acceptance in our schools, communities, and the world! #orangetogether

Order your T-shirt today


Together Against Bullying Video

This is an animated video created from student drawings and writing that shows that kids want bullying to stop and want to be part of the solution.


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Student Action Plan Against Bullying

Wondering what you can do to address bullying? This handout will help you develop a strategy to change the bullying situation you have experienced.

Download Action Plan


Join the We Will Generation!

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Want to be a part of the movement of students looking out for students? Learn what you can do and how to take the pledge:

WE WILL be the generation to:

  • Own this issue and be the solution
  • Make sure every individual knows that they matter
  • Reach out to peers and let them know that they aren’t alone
  • Establish a supportive community that unites in action
  • Change the negativity that has impacted so many for so long

Learn more

 


Tell Us Why You Care

  • Me and my friends are all bisexual or homosexuals. Because of this we have realized how many people are very homophobic and bully kids because of it. Even adults bully kids who are not straight. We want to bring awareness that bullying not only exists as cyber bullying, physical bullying, mental bullying, emotional bullying, it also exists as homophobia.



    Kayleigh — 15
  • No one should be a bully or get bullied even if they once done something bad or they look different or speak a different language



    kaitlyn — 12
  • It's sad how many people don't realize how their words can affect people, or even they do know... and just don't care. I care because I didn't know until it was too late & I lost my best friend.



    Megan — 21
  • I have been bullied and its horrible. I have cried myself to sleep and I have hurt myself. It's not something I want others to go through.



    Ryan — 17
  • If you get bullied just know you're not alone. ❤



    Casey — 14
  • I have been bullied and it was not a good experience. I dont want that to happen to anyone else. I want to stop bullying.



    Emily — 13

Stories

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My bullying began when I was in second grade. At that time, no one cared, at all. Cops never got involved, rarely did teachers, principals, other parents, or any school officials do a darn thing. Even parents did little. I am writing because although we’ve made strides, and there is a national awareness of the problem of bullying, and even though schools try to be more proactive in prevention, and consequences of bullying, we have a long ways to go, and I believe that unless someone has experiences bullying, they simply don’t get it. In America I still do not think our country takes bullying as serious as it should. In fact, it seems to me that MANY think of it as a “rite of passage”, and something “all kids do, and all kids go through. ” NO, not ALL kids do it, and not ALL kids go through it, and there is ZERO value in being bullied. It doesn’t teach any lesson about being tough, strong, fighting-back,or being thick-skinned. It created trauma, severe, deep, wounding emotional trauma, that lasts your entire life. Confusing bullying with an insensitive or thoughtless remark, or a hard truth to hear, is injustice. There is a far cry from telling someone something without realizing the tone or inflection in your voice, and relentless, calculated, cruel bullying! I don’t believe a “rite of passage” has to include either be a horrible person, or be treated horribly. I was being pushed into fences, having rocks thrown at me, held back against walls and having rocks and trash shoved in my pocket so deep I had to take off my pants in the bathroom to get rid of the debris they crammed in. My food was stolen off my lunch tray, and then the “fat” remarks begin shortly thereafter. Then, came the “queer” and “gay” and “faggot” remarks. They would throw wet towels at me, spit wads, kick my backpack out of my hands. I was kicked in the shin regularly, had my ankle stepped on constantly. They got into my desk one day and broke all my new pencils in half. Nothing was ever said. Nothing was ever done about it. I don’t believe for an iota of a second that our teacher, or any teacher, didn’t see it, hear it , and watch it. In fact, sometimes I know they’d be staring directly on, doing nothing. I don’t understand that level of cognitive dissonance, or immediate psychological barrier put up,but I know they knew. After a few months of it (but not even close to the length of time it actually continued) I went home and finally told my Mom what was happening. She was shocked.

Now, the insults about my Mom as well. The rock got bigger, the kicks got harder, I was tripped daily. I was afraid to use the bathroom nearest our class, because they would ALWAYS see me go in, and ALWAYS follow me. They always had something to say to me. About anything. If I was eating. It was gross. When I talked to other kids, who were my friends, this girl interrupted, jumped between us, and told them exactly WHY they shouldn’t be my friend. Most listened to her. She had managed to build her own little army, kids from every grade level, including her sixth grade brother and friends. I don’t know how she had the influence she did, but she managed. I was eight years old, and already gave up on teachers, and the school system in general. It seemed easier to blame the victims, because no one wanted to the bully mad at THEM. Even if that bully was a child. I figured that out on that day, and to this day, in 2018, it STILL is the truth in society.

It was surreal, I couldn’t believe that the level of torment I was going through, just to do to school everyday! My entire scholastic career, and how I interact with the world, my thought process, my perceptions, my sense of worth, my persona, the way I exit in the world and conduct myself….all stemmed from the psychological trauma from those years of bullying. It was a regular thing, I was always an easy target, and some of came from my experience of being bullied. It was a continuous, constant slew from middle-school through high-school, and even now. I still can’t defend myself. I still can’t even have a regular conversation with someone that might get a bit heated. I always assume people are “mad at me” or I need to apologize for something that made them annoyed. I go quiet when bullied, and just try to walk quickly out of it. I just cannot deal with even the slightest disagreement, because I always think that I am the one at fault, I’m the one with the flaw, I’m the one that should try and change and be more like someone else. I had a continuation of bullies, at every grade level. Not just the one kid that is a bully in a school either, it was entire groups of bullies and one long string. Often, it turned physical, and there was no rhythm or reason to it, at all. I write this, because I think people need to know that bully leave deep, impacting, scars. It affects who we are, what our moral are, how we respond to others. It shapes us when we become adults and when it’s unresolved, It is the catalyst behind people our adult choices, and even who we enter relationships with. It creates a very dysfunctional inner dialogue, and everywhere you go, you assume people are making fun of you. You already set-yourself for failure before you even begin doing anything. You can’t hear compliments, and no matter what someone says to you that is good, you tend to always just be waiting on the negative, and you always…ALWAYS think , if someone hurts you, you deserve it, by not meeting their standards for you.